Thursday, June 10, 2010

Cheating? Yes? No? Maybe?

Okay, I'm a laggard but I'm just in the middle of Season 2 of Dexter and Season 2 has got this super irritating Brit bitch named Lila who tried to steal Dexter from his girlfriend and last night, while watching the episode where they both ran away on a road trip without Dexter's girlfriend's knowledge, me and BB discussed whether that is considered cheating when they ran off, slept in the same bed, cuddled up but didn't have sex....but let me give you the proper scenario...

First the character...
Dexter: The serial killer who kills serial killer and in Season 2, he enrolled into Narcotics Anonymous (NA) kind of to cure his addiction (but to kill people in this case)....why NA? Cos there's not Serial Killer Anonymous so he pretended that he's a junkie...
Lila: The Brit bitch who looks a bit like a shemale in some angles and with too much fillers injected into her lips that her upper lip doesn't move when she talks...oh she's also Dexter's NA sponsor and she's aware of Dexter having a girlfriend and she still tries to get fresh with him...like kissing him on the lips to say good bye and taking off all her clothes to get into the shower in his presence


Now the scenario...
Okay, now Dexter's confused cos he's been feeling hollow and he kills for a thrill to feel alive. And Lila told him she'll help him feel again and started giving him advice on how to do it...the whole you "gotta figure out who you are and get in touch with your emotions shit"....then one day, Dexter found out that the guy who murdered his mother (right in front of him when he was 3) was alive and Lila suggested that they go find him and Dexter could face him and tell him he ruined his family and his life. So off they went on a road trip and Dexter didn't tell his girlfriend and lied that he was off for the night to do some stuff. Then Dexter and Lila had a joint room but the connecting door's open, the brit slut took off all her clothes and went into the shower while Dexter was on the phone with his gf. Dexter went out to find his mother's killer and then beat the crap out of him and he wanted to kill him. Well, he didn't in the end, went back to the hotel all upset and shattered and Brit bitch cuddled him to sleep and they were talking about stuff etc and getting very cozy....And of course Dexter didn't tell his gf he went off with the Brit Bitch....

So here's the question: Do you consider that cheating?

BB said it's wrong but it's not exactly cheating because there's no sex and Dexter left when the bitch stripped naked and that Dexter's confused and emotionally vulnerable

Princess said it's not cheating cos there's no "poke poke" (verbatim)...he said there's no sex, so it's not cheating

J said it's not cheating cos "they didn't fuck" and he is an emotional train wreck

C-lee & QQ said it's definitely cheating because he lied.

Ah Meow angrily said "OF COURSE it's cheating! Just because there's no penetration doesn't mean it's not cheating!" (ohhh well said ah meow!)

I said it is cheating! Why? Because Dexter lied to his gf, knew that the Brit Bitch has got something for him and was trying to get fresh with him (like kissing him on the lips and being all suggestive), but he still went to the road trip with her, knowing that he's in a committed relationship....not the mention Dexter lied to his gf...oh mind you, withholding information (ie. there's a girl with him on the road trip and that they were cuddling up) to me is considered lying...And yes, he's emotionally messed up and vulnerable but you can't get away with anything JUST BECAUSE you're emotionally distressed. It's not an excuse and you still have to be responsible for your action even when you're emotionally messed up.....So yes, it is cheating because lying is involved. Period.

So now it seems like the men seem to think that it's not cheating but all the woman folks I asked all consider it cheating....men vs women? It seems like men think that cheating must involve sexual penetration whereas us women view cheating in a more complete sense and regard emotional cheating as cheating (might actually be worse than physically cheating).....I dunno.....So do you think it's cheating?? Hmmm......

15 comments:

citrella said...

Yes cheating. Definitely.

B said...

Thank you! It is indeed cheating!!! I'm surprised the guys think it's okay!

Anonymous said...

Alright...you've said what I feel totally Miss B..so IT IS CHEATING..no need to test the boundaries of any penetration..Jus figured what i jus wrote could be taken figuratively..opps.. --A

Amanda said...

Yes it is cheating because his intention to tell the lie is questionable.

Anonymous [x] said...

So you girls have NEVER told a lie to your partners? Yeah, right!

Did Dexter have any intentions of being intimate with this woman – no. Did he make any move when she went to the shower – no, in fact he felt awkward and left. So why did he lie? Well, you've demonstrated the answer to that: because his girlfriend would have flipped and thought (wrongly) that he was being immoral with another woman, when he wasn’t!

It comes down to, did he either have feelings for this other woman, or did he intend on being immoral with her. The answer to both is no.

Ergo, no cheating in my book.

B said...

Lying's lying and if there's nothing and it's so innocent, why lie? He could have told her nicely and reassure her that nothing's wrong. Lying is wrong. Period. Especially when it comes to sensitive shit like that. So nope, he's shit.

So the question is, will you girls dump the guy because of this?

I think I would cos he could lie about supposedly innocent thing, what about more serious shit? So nope, I would dump him. Would you?

Amanda said...

Miss B is right. If my bf tell me nicely about the truth upfront, I might still be upset but I will be glad that he is honest with me. If my bf lie to me and I find out the truth subsequently, then I can assure you I will flip & freak out.

Amanda said...

And yes, I will dump this guy for sure

B said...

Hey Amanda, I totally agree with you. I'd rather know the truth and get pissed off and then move on then being lied to. I guess men have a different way of thinking. I think it's a penile complex....they only have enough blood for one head LOL

So yes, it's definitely a dump him situation

Ah Dog said...

wow, interesting conversation

sorry to disturb but where can we watch Dexter and Season 2 ?

love to watch and join in the conversation too

haha sorry clueless.

but based on your discussion, yes i will also dump the man who can't be honest with his doings and lie to move on.

Ah Dog said...

*Woof Woof* barks, thanks.

Being a kampong dog for so long, really not sure where to download? can you please guide me where to download? really love to watch this show after your review.

*woof and run to Miss B and lick lick to say thank you thank you*

Ah Dog said...

Thanks B muses! greatly appreciated you took the time and effort to explain to me. i will go download right now :)

thanks so much, once again

B said...

Ah Dog, I removed the previous comments cos apparently I'm not supposed to put that up.

samuel said...

I dont think cheating is defined by just penetration alone. I think the line is crossed even when it is just flirting with another. coz if you are flirting with someone else, you are advertising yourself as "available". i would consider physical touching (kissing, holding, hugging, etc [western form of greeting can close one eye if it's the culture of the other party]) with another as cheating too.

i guess my definition of cheating is a lot more stringent than other guys huh.

B said...

Hey samuel, yes, I think you've got the most stringent definition of cheating among all the men I know and I totally salute you for that cos that's an important part of my definition of what a good man should be! Good morals! I'm sure the rest of the girls would agree too and yes by flirting you're signalling you're available but a lot of guys think it's ok cos they said it's harmless flirting but I've also seen one too many harmless flirting turned into more!

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