Tuesday, August 23, 2011

Notable Quotable

"The most beautiful people are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity and an understanding of life that fill them compassion, gentleness and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen."

---Elisabeth K├╝bler-Ross


Joan said...

This is beautiful.

Tiffany said...


i suffered physical challenges before and i totally attest to the beauty of the words meaning. after giving to my little girl last year Jan through induction + assisted delivery e.g. kiwi cup they call, my pelvic bone got disjointed so widely i was handicapped for whole 1 month in wheelchair. that's the most distressing and depressing moment in my life, i can't even hold my baby in my arm.

B said...

Yes I love this quote. I have it pasted at my office cubicle :)

Wow Tiff, you really went through a difficult patch! How come you didn't opt for C-Section?? That's why I think women are amazing cos we sacrifice so much for the kids!

Tiffany said...

i did think about c-section but i was new with my first kid so i trust in my gynae opinion. closer to my delivery date, the gynae started then to tell me my baby is rather big at 3.4kg and suggested i got induced and even the induction is near my expected date of delivery already just that induced birth help to get my baby out quickly. so i asked if induction is really the right choice? he said yes. so i trusted him and admitted to the hospital, we tried for 2 days but still no signs and in one evening, i was really pushed to my exhaustion limit and asked the nurse to check with the gynae if he can c-section me instead? but the nurse said gynae is away and blah blah blah told me all the risk of c-section.so i hope ok, just wait for gynae opinion and u know in KKH hospital, there is 1 malay nurse she is horrid to the max and abused the patient.
the next morning, just when he wanted to insert the 3th tablet, my cervix started to dilate and open and i was pushed into waiting labour for 12 hours. i was extremely exhausted by then already. but more than 12 hours of wait for the cervix to be fully open in order to push + 3 days of wait to get induced, i am totally running of energy . and the moment my girl is out, suddenly i felt i am immobilized i can't move at all! the gynae even thought i was too tired and said i need rest but the horrible fact came - for the next 2 days in hospital, i can't move at all, and he didn't come and visit me thinking i just plainly overstretched only and it's only 3rd time he realize the seriousness and told me i suffered from a serious pelvic disjoint that i can only use wheelchair ! my whole world broke down and he said he can't do anything and even sarcastically said "dun worry la, u won't go crippled one..just wait for ur joint to heal lor..if not got surgery lor" wow so irresponsible and then he refereed me to go see orthapedic and the surgeon said the gynae should cut me instead . later i also realize most government gynae are just too lazy to do c-section and ask u to go labour birth,so they don't even need to do any operation save their time what. they should have suggested me to go c-section but he didn't. luckily 1 month after days of prayers and days of darkness and emotional blackmail, i emerged out of this dark battle survive , i slowly learnt to walk step by step. and now i can walk already after 1 year.

B said...

OMG, I'm so sorry to hear that it was such a difficult labour and the ordeal you went through. Your gynae sucked big time!! I'm sorry to say but it's stupid to still wait 2 days after trying to induce!! It's ridiculous! Normally, you would have been c-sectioned if it's already 2 days after the first induction. It's crazy. It sounds to me like bad practice in fact.

Did you complain to the service quality department about the nurse? You should really!

I suppose you're quite petite? For 3.4kg and first child, it makes more sense to do a c-section, and ESPECIALLY SO when the delivery didn't happen 2 days after an induced birth! I can't believe this. You should have sued the gynae. There are a lot of shit doctors our there who treat patient merely as a set of symptoms and a heap of organs. It's tragic. Sigh...at least you're good now.

Tiffany said...

yes, i did thought of complaining the nurse abusive manner to the service department but i was down to total immobility in hospital, can't even take a step down my bed for a drink and need people to carry me to the toilet, i just can't believe i can survive those few days in hospital, washing my days in tears and i was extremely emotional fragile back then thinking they might harm my little girl in the baby ward. and plus after i got discharged, my mind is just focusing on healing and getting on my life positively hence i put all these unhappiness on the gynae and nurse behind. you know when one is really push to the fragile max, all u want is just peace in ur heart and put the hatred behind u..it's really a tough time.

Tiffany said...

and yes, thanks for your words of encouragement, you are really woman of wonders :)

all the lovely quotes and posts you posted up really shed hope in our life to be strong :)

B said...

Wow Tiff, YOU are the woman of wonder! It's such a major fight to come out of that bad patch and depression. I can only imagine how hard it was cos I probably wouldn't be able to take it. That's very inspirational to know that you've overcome such a bad time and be forgiving to the nurse who treated you badly.

I would have kicked up some serious big fuss. Though I think you should have lah!

Now please stay well!

Tiffany said...

Hi bmuses
like to share this inspiring quotes on friend with you, i saw this on today facebook feeds. Paulo coelho writes really well too, you might like to subscribe to his facebook page for more daily quotes and inspiration :)

Paulo Coelho
"True friends are those who are with us when the good things happen. They are pleased by our triumphs. False friends only appear at difficult times, with their sad, supportive faces, when, in fact, our suffering is serving to console them for their miserable lives"

PS: personally i think "miserable lives" are just what some perceived while in reality, they lead a perfectly normal blessed life. maybe it's more like "imperfect lives" hahaha

B said...

Hey Tiff, yes that is a very true and good quote. That's why there's the term "Frenemy"! You don't want those! I've cut off ties with a couple of people cos they were Frenemies and trust me, it's better without them!


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